For emergencies, call 911. For immediate support, find a 24-hour crisis-line here.

Safety Network Durham focuses on support for the two main types of gender-based violence:

Power and Control
What abuse can look like

Using coercion and threats

Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her • Threatening to leave her, to commit suicide • Making her drop charges • Making her do illegal things

Using intimidation

Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures • Smashing things • Destroying her property • Abusing pets • Displaying weapons

Using emotional abuse

Putting her down • Making her feel bad about herself • Calling her names • Making her think she’s crazy • Playing mind games
• Humiliating her • Making her feel guilty

using isolation

Controlling what she does, who she see and talks to, what she reads, where she goes
• Limiting her outside involvement
• Using jealousy to justify actions

minimizing, denying and blaming

Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously • Saying the abuse didn’t happen • Shifting responsibility for abusive behaviour • Saying she caused it

Using Children

Making her feel guilty about the children
• using the children to relay messages
• using visitation to harass her • Threatening to take the children away

Using male privilege

Treating her like a servant • Making all the big decisions • Acting like the “master of the castle” • Being the one to define men’s and women’s roles

Using economic abuse

Preventing her from getting or keeping a job • Making her ask for money • Giving her an allowance • Taking her money • Not letting her know about or have access to family income

A calm woman

If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, please reach out and speak to someone who can offer information, referrals and support. View our How We Help page for more information about how we can support you or a loved one.

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